If you are a parent say “Alhamdulillah”.
We have been granted this huge blessing but aslo huge responsibility at the same time: “To love our children , to cherish them and to help them become righteous.”
When we visit new parents we usually wish them with:
Baarakallaahu laka fil-mawhoobi laka, wa shakartal-waahiba , wa balagha ‘ashuddahu, wa ruziqta birrahu.
May Allah bless you with His gift to you, and may you (the new parent) give thanks, may the child reach the maturity of years, and may you be granted its righteousness.
Please note that in this dua it is mentioned: “… and may you be granted its righteousness.”
So there are great rewards for the parents who will bring their children up to be righteous.
We as parents have to take our parental responsibilities seriously and find a perfect balance where our children will grow up in a loving environment, with security and gentle guidance and encouragement.
Be merciful to your children.
Where is it written that any of us can use harsh methods of discipline?
If you know, please let me have your proof and source
Instead I can give you one of many examples that show the kindness of the Prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa salam) towards children:
In a narration Abu Hurayrah (ra) said: “The Prophet(pbuh) kissed Al-Hasan once while Al-Aqra’ Ibn Haabis was sitting with him, so Al-Aqra’ said, `I have ten children; never did I kiss any of them.` The Prophet therefore looked at him and said: ‘Allaah will not be merciful with the one who is not merciful to others. ‘” [Al-Bukhaari]
You say you love the prophet (sallallahu alayhi wa salam). Then why do you not follow his example?