For those who are new to the term “Kitty Parties” : “It is a gathering of idle rich ladies of high societies who spend or rather waste their time and wealth in gossiping on useless topics while eating junk food, listening to junk music, and playing junk games”
Now the venue and the activities of kitty parties have changed. From the large drawing rooms of the rich apartments it has come down to the small chawls of middles class via internet. The cyber lanes are being turned into Cyber Halls. There are lots of “kitty parties” in these cyber halls. Some of them are called “Pages” and some “Talk rooms”.
A young collegian brother and a regular reader of mine, cut and pasted my notes and sent them regulalry to girls until one of my readers drew my attention to it and indeed when I visited his wall, it was all decorated by my occasional social notes and edited nicely into new notes signed by the new author…Beneath it lots of north Indian girls were being tagged. The comments from the girls were awesome with praises for the boy’s good sense of thinking !!!
Many innocent Muslim girls and young women think that these pages and groups are safe to subscribe to.
Well without suspecting some one’s intentions let me caution you. Some of the pages are run by sisters but administered by boys. In other words they have a direct access even to those girls who other wise would not talk to a non Mahram. Some girls have ended with affairs that lead to broken hearts.
In many cases the initial discussions began with responses to good Qur’anic verses and Hadith sent by the main person but the charge of replies to querries were handed over to young aspiring boys who volunteer to help them.
It is a quite a destressing fact is that a large number of middle class girls get obsessed too much by their cyber companions. Some even do not know that the girl’s ID they are talking to actually is a deceptive method applied by mishcievous boys.
Last year, young girl’s father complained to me about his daughter’s affair on the internet. There was a whole group of boys and girls who started the groups by seding Qur’anic ayats and hadith on a regular basis.
They were not an authority on the subject, but it was rather a cut and paste knowledge that gave deceived impression to the young enthuthiastic girls that they are proposed to by a well learned boy. The said girl kept on asking innocent questions pertainning to daily fiqh and one of the boys cut and pasted from a well know fatawa site. This drew the girl closer to the boy and then after a few months of closeness the seperation came like an earth quake when the boy refused to marry.
The Kitty parties on facebook are painted by different colours but dangerous too because it is within the reach of middle class girls. The topics begin with Islam and lots of notes and videos are shared and end up with a good bye..leaving the girl with more tears than fun…
Will you still roam and wander in cyber lanes and get impressed by the crowded “likes” clicked on pages run by unknown young men who start groups on the name of Celebrity Islamic scholars and run it like a scholar?
Many girls may not fall into affairs but they mix up freely with Non Mahram, and that is another danger to their modesty.
My rule is simple: If you want to learn deen , approach authentic websites, or 
dawah centres affiliated to good sources. Or go to youtube and listen to the scholars directly..If you want to learn deen..I hope you get my point!!!!
Author : Nisaar Nadiadwala speaks and writes on Islam and Muslims. He can be reached at nisaar_yusuf@yahoo.com
Good observation my brother Nisaar Y. Nadiadwala ,Good article.